Networking
How to engage with people you admire without being intrusive
There's a line between approaching someone you admire and looking like a pushy fan.
LinkedIn puts you one click away from people you admire: leaders in your field, authors who inspire you, people in roles you aspire to. That closeness is a rare opportunity, and also a minefield. A clumsy approach can feel intrusive or self-serving. A thoughtful one can start a valuable relationship.
What makes an approach feel intrusive
- Asking for something big right away, with no prior relationship
- Long, intense messages that overwhelm the other person
- Pushing: chasing a reply or sending several messages in a row
- Empty flattery that sounds self-serving rather than sincere
How to approach with respect
The best way onto the radar of someone you admire is through contribution rather than requests. Comment on their content thoughtfully, adding something to the conversation. Show that you follow and value their work, without overdoing it. Build familiarity gradually, before you ask for anything.
Generosity opens more doors than requests
People who are widely admired receive countless requests and very few genuine contributions. That's why people who add value stand out. Sharing their work with a smart comment, offering a useful perspective, acknowledging a specific point: all of this builds a positive impression without asking for anything in return.
Engaging with people you admire doesn't have to be awkward or intrusive. With respect, contribution and patience, an approach becomes a relationship. And relationships built this way, without rush or pressure, are the ones that tend to open doors over time.
